Visit from Abroad

The last time my parents came to visit, the weather was horribly cold and we'd only been in China for a few months. Thankfully, they were able to return when not only the weather was cooperative, but we actually had a bit of a clue as to what was going on around us.

I'd tried to plan some local day trips to places I thought they'd enjoy, while the girls were away on their respective class trips and at school.

First stop was to the tailor's. Dad wanted a new suit and Mom wanted a winter coat. I joined in the fun and got fitted for a red jacket for the holidays. It's hard to walk into the shop and not come out with something. After three more trips before my parents left, we had a suit, two pair of pants, two jackets and a coat between us.

Another tourist stop is Sheng Tang Street along the narrow canals. Souvenirs abound in the little shops amidst the ancient architecure-styled homes. We went early in the day and there were hardly any other folks (tourists) around. There were, however, plenty of scooters that came barrelling down the narrow street. We got beeped at a few times. I tried to talk them into trying some stinky tofu, but since I've never tried it and really have no desire to do so, I didn't push the issue. Instead, we went to Singa Plaza and had a nice semi-authentic chinese lunch at Hot Chic.

With all three girls away, Larry and I wanted to take my parents to a Korean BBQ. We're big fans and thought Mom and Dad would like it as well. Wrong! As you can see by the photo, they were not impressed. Ok, duly noted.

I also took them to MuDu, another scenic little town along the ancient canals. This is where I stock up on nuts. Almonds, walnuts, macademia, pecans...you name it. Dad and I planned on making granola since the gigantic batch he'd made and brought over was disappearing at an alarmingly fast rate. Again, we appeared to be the only tourists except for one group with matching ball caps. The hustle and bustle of the locals filled the streets with plenty of activity and people-watching.
We managed to go somewhere new almost every day. Whether it was to Pearl City to buy some baubles or just to the neighborhood center to pick up some fresh veggies and fruit, I was determined to keep them on the go.

I also made sure we were home most evenings by 5pm. Happy hour took place with a focused diligence not often seen in my household. When the girls arrived home, they were more concerned about what was being served as an appetizer that evening rather than what their homework was. They were lucky. The weeks before and after the holiday break were pretty light in that department.
All in all, Suzhou hopefully kept them entertained. I did make them walk an awful bit, but those little jaunts were nothing campared to what I put them through when we went to Beijing.

More to come...

Hitting Their Stride

Catching up on the backlog of photos and happenings...
The girls competed in the annual Interhouse Cross Country Match last month. This was their third attempt and they all did really well. Syd joined the cross country club and had been practicing diligantly. Her goal was to finish higher than she'd finished the previous year. Sarah really didn't have any goal except to run. Katie's goal was to finish the race.

The Junior School raced in the morning. I wore my Shackelton green with pride as we were defending champs. The girls set off first. My eyes caught Sydney first as she came over the bridge towards the finish line. She was in the top ten. As I looked behind her and couldn't find Sarah I became a bit worried. Suddenly, I saw a green shirt near the front of the pack. Sarah was in fourth and sprinting ahead of another girl as they neared the end. I'd been so focused on Syd, thinking all of her training would have put her out front. However, watching Sarah's easy gait as she strode across the finish line, I realized some are just naturally inclined to run. They both finished in the Top 10, with Sarah at 3rd and Syd at 7th.
Senior School raced in the afternoon. The other mums and I reminisced about last year's race and Katie's heroic efforts in finishing with the help of one mum running with her. A good friend actually went home between the races and came back with sneakers on so she could run with Katie. The race was longer and she was really worried she wouldn't finish, but I told her to just keep going slow and steady. And, that's what she did.
Once again, the theme from 'Chariots of Fire' blared over the speakers as she crossed the finish line. She was last, but she'd improved her time by several minutes over the course of the term and was quite pleased with herself. I was quite pleased with all three of them.

Have You Made Your 'Bucket List'?

Over the years, I've made all kinds of lists. Christmas wish lists, lists of favorite songs, lists of boys I wanted to date, lists of boys I wish I'd never dated, and even a "Freebie" list. If you've seen the television show, Friends, you know what I'm talking about. Currently, that particular list consists of Daniel Craig, Christian Bale and Alexander Skarsgard; 007, Batman and Eric, a thousand year old vampire. Other lists have been things I've wanted to accomplish at varying stages of my life. When I was twenty, number one on my list was to sing on a Broadway stage. Well, I didn't perform in front of an audience, but I did stand on a NYC stage and belt out a few bars. When I was thirty, number one was to start a family. Checked that one off two years later. When I turned forty, a new name appeared for my list. The movie, "The Bucket List" had come out the previous year. Was I really that old to be of the mindset that I was making a list of things I wanted to accomplish or see happen before I died?

I remember sitting on my bed with my journal in my lap. I turned to the back page and wrote in block letters, BUCKET LIST. With all of the packing and unpacking over the past few years, I cannot for the life of me find that journal, but I do remember at least half of my listed items. I also remember writing "in no specific order". That particular item seemed important at the time...not sure why. My thought process was probably something like, "As long as it gets checked off before I die, it doesn't matter if it's first or last". A couple are rather high aspirations, I won't go as far as to say they're pipedreams, but they're close. The rest are attainable in my opinion. In fact, I've already checked off four.

Sing with my daughter(s)- that occurred three years ago, when Katie and I sang together at church for Mother's Day.

Visit a foreign country- I did one better, I moved to a foreign country and have visited a few more.

Learn a new language- Trying desperately to learn Chinese, and am also picking up tidbits of German, and remembering lots of Spanish and French due to the smorgasbord of expat friends.

Stand on the Great Wall with my family - Not sure why I picked that particular Seven Wonder even before we knew we were moving to China, but it was kind of fortuitous. I got all emotional when our friend took a picture of our family at the entrance to the Great Wall, consciously aware another check was going to be made. (More to come about this experience!)

The rest will remain private. Private, that is, until I can check them off as well.

Ramblings

I must say I'm disappointed with myself. I'd planned on hitting one hundred posts this year, but at the rate I've been going the past few months, I'll never make it. There's definitely plenty of fodder to fill the pages, but time keeps whizzing by. When I first started the blog, I was working full time at Clemson University. I managed to update regularly...ok...so maybe sitting at a computer all day allowed me easy access. Being unemployed and in a new country should have given me ample opportunities to write. I'd even thought of writing a book. New topics presented themselves daily. How grocery shopping and defensive blocking are similar, the best way to get around China is in the back seat of a car with your eyes closed, the art of negotiating, or public urination...I mean REALLY public. Two years later, I still shake my head at the sights that initally shocked or scared the living bejeegus out of me. The book idea still tickles at my brain. Since I'm having a hard enough time trying to keep up with this blog, the idea will have to continue to tickle. Those who know me, know I have a tendency to procrastinate. Having more time on my hands did not allow me to do more, it just allowed me to put off things for greater lenghts of time.
Since rejoining the ranks of the employed and having my parents stay with us for three weeks, I've discovered a kind of frazzled focus, but focus nonetheless. The busier I am, the more I can get done. Yesterday, I taught five classes, baked and bagged ten dozen cookies for the Girl Scouts' coookie sale, did four loads of laundry, put up the Halloween decorations and had a decent meal on the table by 6:30. Life continues on, no matter in what country we find ourselves. Yes, things get extremely aggravating over here, like when I try to find sour cream at five different stores or when I pay close to $8 for a block of cheese or when I have to step over the fresh pool of pee made by the little toddler in the produce section at Auchen. Now, however, besides cringing, I file it away in my frazzled mind, wondering in what chapter it will fit.

First Day of School

A month ago, my friend and I met for a quick lunch. She mentioned she had been approached by the principal of a Chinese kindergarden to teach English. Her schedule as a dance teacher and promoter of various wine distributers kept her too busy. She nonchalantly asked if I was interested. Something inside of me just lit up. "Yes!", I exclaimed, almost shouting at her.

I'd entertained the idea of teaching, but in the States, I would have had to earn another Bachelor's degree. I decided on pursuing my Master's in Counselor Education instead. When we moved to China, I was three classes shy of that degree. I figured I'd try being a Tai Tai (housewife of leisure), but was floundering. Don't get me wrong, going to wine lunches, shopping in Shanghai, exploring ancient water towns, and catching up on decades of movies and television has its benefits. I love being able to help out at the girls' school whenever they need me. However, I felt a bit...useless. Teaching little ones just might put the spunk back in my step.

By the following week, I had met and interviewed with the principal, toured the school, had been introduced to the teachers and stood at the entrance of the school awaiting the arrival of four hundred children and their parents, grandparents, ayis and other caregivers. As each child entered, they eyed me shyly...at first. Their gaze did not sway until they'd turned the corner to their classrooms. I shook the hands of the adults and patted the heads of the kids as they passed. A whirlwind of activity ensued. I watched as they began their day with exercise and song in the courtyard. A group of kids were selected as 'color guards', and they proudly marched the Chinese flag to its position and all stood at attention as it was raised.

To be perfectly honest, I was terrified. I had never taught and the thought of these little tikes ready to absorb whatever I said actually made me break out into a cold sweat. As I walked into the first of the twelve classes I would be teaching, all anxiety disappeared. The smiling faces of thrity adorable children beamed at me. How could I not beam back?

I was in my element. Each child came to me and we had a conversation. For some kids, this was an easy task, but others were bashful...at first. Some know a little English, but there are many more who do not know any words beyond "Good Morning". Each day so far has been an adventure. I sing and dance, talk in funny accents and try to remember childhood games and chants to keep these sponges fully engaged. I come home drenched in sweat as the classrooms aren't air conditioned and I'm terribly out of shape. No need to buy that gym club membership when I get a workout everyday in the classrooms. I teach four 4-yr.old classes once a week, and five 5-yr.old classes and six 6-yr.old classes twice a week. Private lessons begin in a couple of weeks and I don't know how many of those I'll have. Each day presents different challenges, but the rewards far outweigh them. At the end of the lesson the entire class rushes at me like I'm a rock star. As I got into a taxi, I heard one of the girls shout "Goodbye, teacher!" from across the street, revitalizing my soul. Hokey? Maybe. True? Definitely.

Computer Issues

Ok, so I'm almost two months behind again, but truly, it wasn't entirely my fault this time. The VPN service somehow became disabled. Without the VPN, I cannot connect to my blog, Facebook, YouTube or any of my other favorite US sites. Larry was travelling and I just didn't (and still don't) have the technological knowledge (or interest) to problem-solve. Complaining and pouting was my course of action.
Once again, I'll be playing catch-up with back dated entries.

New Digs

With only a week before we were slated to fly to the States and an entire houseful of goods to pack, load, unload and unpack, my head was spinning.
I really didn't think it was possible to accumulate as much stuff (junk) in two years. I'd just gone through this process when we moved over here and thought we had done a pretty good job of keeping the junk to a minimum. Nope, not at all. As I packed up each and every thing, I often stopped and questioned, "What was I thinking? Did we really need to bring fourteen water bottles? How many bath and hand towels can one family actually use?" And the clothes, my God, the clothes. My ayi made out like a bandit. Each day I'd place unwanted items on the makeshift storage' ledge and the days she came, she'd load up her little scooter with EVERYTHING.

Larry and I agreed we could not handle another year on a rock-hard mattress. Unfortunately, the new landlord had already bought one bed. We moved it to what would be Katie's room and bought the mattress pad from the old landlord to soften it up. We bought a beautiful bedroom set and a 3 piece red leather living room set in Likou (furniture town). The existing furniture is, in one word, hideous. It's way too big and, did I mention, HIDEOUS. We've asked over and over for it to be removed, but as of today it is still in the spare room/office.

John, our faithful 'relocation guy', set up the movers and they showed up three hours early as they said the day was supposed to get really hot and they wanted to get as much done before the heat of the day. "No problem, let me just get dressed and wake up my kids since it's just after 7:30 and the start of their summer vacation".

What an experience. There were two flat bed trucks and eight guys. The leader of the pack asked what went and what stayed. I went through and pointed. I cringed as they basically slung the boxes on the backs or stacked them haphazardly. They hastily dismantled the twins' beds. They loaded things on in no apparant order and made no effort to consolidate space. I had initially been quoted a price of 150 RMB per truckload, but that changed to 200 due to 'summer rates'. Whatever.
Mr. Liu helped a great deal. He'd see me getting upset at how something was being handled and he'd yell at the movers. I about had a meltdown when one of the guys dropped my antique dollcase. I don't know what he said, but they slowed down and were a tad gentler with things.
With one truck loaded and the other truck driving in, I ased Mr. Liu to stay at the old house while I rode with movers. That was interesting and I received more than one glance from other drivers. Here I am, in the front seat of this rickety flat bed, with four Chinese men. No, we weren't all in the front seat. Two were hanging on to my worldly possessions in the back. This process was repeated four times, and by 1:00 they were done.

There were boxes and suitcases everywhere. As I started unpacking I had to be careful where I put things for fear I'd forget when we returned from our trip. (By the way, I did forget where I'd put the girls' ties and PE uniforms. I silently cursed the ayi thinking she'd put it somewhere. It wasn't until the second day of school when I finally remembered I'd put all these things under the twins' beds in one of the storage drawers.)

Rosie and Peanut were the last articles to be moved. I told the girls that if they could keep them off of the leather furniture then they could stay inside. Less than twenty four hours later, Rosie and Peanut became outside cats. They meowed and meowed, almost weakening my resolve. However, I saw what their claws could do to leather. Besides, there were a couple other felines roaming around. I figured they could be neighborly.

Even though I was not looking forward to the long flight, I was mighty happy when we boarded the plane. The garage and attic were in disarray, and the girls' rooms were cramped with clothes and toys. They don't have dressers, only closets. Katie utilized her nightstand drawer for socks and other delicates, while a couple of the twins' toy bins were converted into clothes' holders for the time being.
The hectic move drained me, but I truly believe we will be much happier in this house. Plus, how can we not love it with red leather furniture?